Valentine's Day

This is a "holiday" I never liked. Not because I've never had a valentine with whom to share the day, but because of the absurdity behind it. The fact that our society literally takes a day and highlights the importance of having a significant other doesn't make sense to me. Why is it so important? Sure, I wouldn't mind having someone to share my story with - and I theirs - but it doesn't define me.

When Valentine's day rolls around, I don't start scrambling, hoping that I'll come across my soul mate within the allotted time. In fact, the day would go completely unnoticed - if people wouldn't harp on it.

One of my co-workers said to me today, "You need a boyfriend. It'll make you happier."

I don't remember what I said. I just remember that I walked away and rolled my eyes. Yes, because my happiness is exactly proportional to whether or not I have someone in my life I call my boyfriend, I thought. I wanted to tell my co-worker that I was fine without a boyfriend, because I have a Heavenly Father that loves me regardless of the stupid things that I do.

I have yet to meet a guy (or girl, for that matter), that through it all, dating, engagement and marriage, to love every facet of his/her girl/boyfriend-fiance-wife/husband. Inevitably, all those little things you used to find cute turn into the biggest annoyances the longer you spend together. Even the happiest couples I know fight and disagree. Everyone always seems to think they'll saunter into marriage and it'll always be roses and poppy fields. That you just go frolicking through life, hand-in-hand, without a care in the world.

This day doesn't bother me because I find myself alone. It bothers me because we've turned what could have been a day to celebrate relationships and instead flipped it on its head. Valentine's day has become this thing to exemplify how if you're important, if you're special, then you've got someone to share Valentine's day with. It kind of makes me sad when I see beautiful girls say things like, "I'm so happy I finally have someone to share Valentine's day with!"

...So? No offense deary, but you've gotta learn to be okay with who you are and who God sees you as before you can learn to properly love another person. At least, learn to love them in the right way. But that's just me. Little ol' me. I've never been in a relationship and I don't know if I'll ever get married. So maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm way off base. Something tells me I'm not though.

Thankfully, there are places like Chick-fil-A that spent the day handing out flowers to their female customers, telling them, "Happy Valentine's day ma'am." Do you realize how refreshing that was? For a large company to look at the world and say, "Y'know, every woman is beautiful, whether she's got a guy in her life or not. Let's celebrate that instead of emphasizing how you've gotta have someone, or you're no one."

Like I said though, I may be wrong. I may be a hypocrite and whenever I am in relationship, I'll be all gung-ho for Valentine's day. I'd be surprised if that were the case though. I'm not really a flower's & chocolate kind of girl. But who knows. Maybe that'll change. Maybe my cynical heart still has some hope.

Well, here's hoping you had a wonderful day - whether you celebrated Valentine's day or not. And guess what? You're beautiful. Or handsome, if you happen to be a guy and you're reading this. In which case, I congratulate you for trudging through the muck of my blog writing! I always kind of thought my writing didn't appeal to guys.

Happy adventuring.

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